With March drawing to a close I thought I’d do a little new year’s resolutions check in. It’s so easy to made big, lofty goals in the first week of January. Everything feels possible as we say goodbye to the old and ring in the new.
The first few weeks of January are my absolute least favorite time of year to go to the gym. It’s so packed with people committing to their resolutions (good for them, bad for getting a lane in the pool or a treadmill). But, sticking with resolutions is a tricky thing and if the cleared out halls of the gym in late March are any indication, most resolutions have fallen to the wayside by now.
In an attempt to keep myself accountable and honest about what’s worked and what hasn’t over the last few months, I’ve put together a little resolutions update, a Q1 check in if you will. Here they are, my five 2017 resolutions from just a few short month ago, let’s see how I’ve done.
- Cut out dessert for the month of January.
Did I do it? Yes!
This post talks in-depth about the dessert detox, but in short, I was way more successful than I thought I’d be. I kept up the dessert detox for January and most of February, with a few days of chocolate sprinkled throughout the second month. I never intended to make it a forever thing but I liked the feeling enough to keep it going. In March I slipped back into a more frequent dessert habit after dinner, maybe 3-4 times a week but I’ve maintained my dessert free lunch. I don’t feel nearly as addicted to the habit and know that if I ever need a refresh, I’m capable of it.
- Be in bed by 9:30 3-4 nights per week.
Did I do it? Sort of.
I was really good about it for the first few weeks (like we all are) and if Michael is traveling I find it’s much easier for me to be in bed early. But, when he’s home I like to spend time with him in the evenings and tend to go to bed later. I’d estimate that I get into bed by 10:15 most nights and fall asleep somewhere between 10:45 and 11 after reading, see below.
- Read 12 books.
Did I do it? Yes, yes and yes!
I’m really proud of the amount of reading I’ve done in the past 3 months. I’m averaging a book roughly every 2 weeks which should have me well above my goal of 12 by the end of the year. I’ve learned the key to continued reading is not to stop. I make sure I have another book lined up as soon as I finish the one I’m reading. If I take a break it’s much harder for me to get back into it. The habit only continues to be a habit if it’s consistent. Here’s what I’ve read so far.
- Stop scrolling my phone during meal times.
Did I do it? Eh, No.
I still look at my phone during most meals. It’s a hard habit to break. But, I am working on not looking at my phone for the first 1-2 hours upon waking up. I find that I’m more focused and less agitated by the barrage of info that can come through while scrolling if I wait. The mornings feel a bit calmer and I feel more present which is great for everyone.
- Be more honest about the things I want vs. what just sounds good.
Did I do it? I’m not sure.
I think this resolution is more deeply seated in feeling guilty about things I do and do not spend my time doing. No, I haven’t felt bad about sleeping later or not meditating. But I’m realizing that there is always something to make me feel guilty if I allow it to.
The key is to stop the self talk guilt swirl at the start.
Being aware is half the battle, the other half is not allowing the thoughts to pile on top of one another.
Let me give you an example.
I often feel guilt around not working and staying home with Noe full-time. The conversation in my head may be set off by something as simple as it being Friday and me not feeling like I deserve to enjoy the weekend because I didn’t work all week.
Then the swirl begins.
“I should be working. But no one is going to want to hire me anyway. What have I spent the last year doing? What do I even have to offer? My skills are irrelevant.”
And so on and so on it goes until I’ve dug myself into the deepest of holes.
I’m learning that the key to stopping the swirl is to get to it before it happens. If I find myself saying, “no one is going to want to hire me anyway” I stop. I realize this is self pity, self doubt and a bit of bruised ego talking. This is not reality and sure as hell isn’t the solution. Ever so slowly I’m starting to find ways to rein in the swirl and this causes less undo guilt and panic. If I don’t drop into it, it has less control over me.
It’s still a work in progress but something I’m definitely working on.
- That leads me to the year’s theme word.
Did I do it? Looking back over the last few months I’d like to think I’m on my way.
I’ve said yes to some things that I might not have before (Asian cooking class, swimming, a deep dive into blog optimization). I’m showing up with more presence and less distraction and I’m making plans and sticking to them. I’m holding myself more accountable and Michael and I even managed to take that vacation we’ve been talking about forever. If that isn’t the ultimate in follow through then I don’t know what is.
So that’s it for my new year’s resolutions check in.
Tell me, how have your resolutions shaped up? Did you keep some? Did you lose sight of others? I want to hear how 2017 has started for you.