I can’t say that I always watch quality television nor read quality books. In fact, I have a subscription to US Weekly that I read religiously every week and I’ve wasted more Monday nights vegging out in front of The Bachelor then I care to admit. But, sometimes even trash can uncover treasure. The other day while scanning People online I came across a Ted Talk from the original bachelorette Trista Sutter about The Value of You. She spoke about the word “just”, how often we use it to disregard our own worth and working on removing just from our vocabulary.
As I started listening to my own speech I realized I, too, am guilty of using this word often when talking about what I do, who I am.
I’m just a freelance writer, mom.
I just work part-time.
I just teach one class a week.
My blog following is just a few people.
I just write about yoga, motherhood, food (sometimes).
I’m just meditating for a few minutes a day.
I just ran three miles.
I just take one or two yoga classes a week.
As I started to listen to my own self talk I realized I was doing exactly what Trista had said. I, personally, was “holding the hammer that’s chipping away at my self-worth,” nobody else.
I put myself down, minimize the work I do, the responsibilities I have, the activities I enjoy because I believe that someone else is doing them better and therefore my achievements don’t mean as much. I allow my own insecurities to overshadow my value, my contribution.
The more I think about this, the dumber I feel.
So, today I vow to start watching out for the word “just”. I’m going to try removing just from my vocabulary. At the very least, I will stop downplaying my achievements. I won’t flippantly toss aside what I spend my time doing. I will use my words to add value, to boost myself up, not tear myself down.
If you haven’t taken the time to examine how you’re describing yourself and the things you do, I encourage you to begin removing just as well. It can be a powerful practice.
Enjoy and Exhale!