Michael and I have been married for a whopping 3.5 years and although that isn’t a ton of time to rack up the marriage knowledge, I have learned a few lessons over the past few years. Lessons about partnership, partnership and parenting, compromise and love. But, the biggest lesson I’ve learned, so far, is this, that a happy marriage comes down to one thing…vegan potato salad!
Yep, the key to a happy marriage is vegan potato salad.
Or maybe it’s what the vegan potato salad represents.
Life isn’t always easy and marriage can sometimes bear the brunt of the chaos. Sometimes we get on each other’s nerves, sometimes we watch TV from opposite ends of the couch when we could be cuddled up next to one another having meaningful conversations. Sometimes we get distracted by bills and chores and work and runny noses. We get too wrapped up in our to-dos and forget to show each other how much we appreciate one another.
That’s where vegan potato salad comes in. It represents what I’ve decided to coin as “little bits of every day appreciation.”
Those things you don’t really have to do, that are pretty small in the grand scheme of effort, but that make a big difference in a relationship. The tiny, everyday nods to the other person to say, “hey, I see you, busting your ass, being a great dad/mom/partner/friend, trying your best. I see you, amid all my own selfish b.s. and I appreciate you. I see you and I love you.”
Isn’t that what we all really want anyway? To be seen, heard, noticed, appreciated.
I think so.
I think noticing and appreciating someone’s efforts can go a long way.
So whenever I feel a little out of touch, like we’ve gotten too wrapped up in everyday life or I suddenly realize Michael has quietly gone along with months of cashew dressings, green smoothies or lentil walnut tacos, I throw in a little vegan potato salad.
It’s my way of saying thank you, I see you, I appreciate you. Not because it’s Father’s Day or Valentine’s Day. Not because he did something for me or because I want something in return. Nope, just because it’s his favorite and I know it’ll make him smile.
Because at the end of the day, even though marriage can be complicated, sometimes it really is as simple as vegan potato salad.
Is there a relationship in your life that needs a little bit of every day of appreciation?
- 2 pounds red skinned potatoes (any small potato will work)
- 1 teaspoon of salt for the boiling water
- 3-4 big stalks celery, diced
- ½ teaspoon minced garlic
- ½ cup chopped dill
- 1 tablespoon rice wine vinegar
- 1 tablespoon apple cider vinegar
- ½ teaspoon ground mustard powder
- ½ teaspoon onion powder
- 1 tablespoon olive oil (lemon olive oil is my favorite to use here)
- ⅛ teaspoon white pepper
- 1 teaspoon salt
- Dash of cayenne
- ⅔ cup vegan mayo
- ¼ cup lemon juice
- Cut potatoes into small pieces. I like to cut one potato into 8ths so that they are small enough for Noe to eat but it's really up to your preference.
- Place potatoes in cold water with 1 teaspoon of salt and cook until a fork slides easily through the pieces.
- Drain and let cool.
- In the meantime, place all other ingredients into a big bowl. Stir well.
- When potatoes are cool add them to the mixture.
- Take and adjust flavorings to suit your taste. We prefer a very lemony salad so I tend to go heavy on lemon juice and the dill.